Why people are so afraid of being alone? What makes people run from themselves and their thoughts and rely on other people to find a shelter? Is being with yourself so scary? Why? What’s the root of this fear?
Many people do tons of things in order to not be alone or feel lonely. Some people get married, some people have kids to not die in their loneliness (if this is your goal too then, think why there are plenty of nursing homes in every country?), and some just stick to the toxic people in their lives to not feel abandoned. The twist appears when those people figure out that they can’t run from themselves forever. The pandemic forced people to be alone with themselves for a period of time, many got depressed and others found out how much they needed this time to think, find themselves, and reflect.
Adding to that, have you ever been in a situation where you were asked to describe your feeling and you couldn’t? I think most of the people were in that situation, but what did you do? Try to remember.
Some feelings are there to be felt. Just felt and can’t be shared. Every person in this world has to experience some feelings that can’t be explained because every person feels differently.
Even though when we try to talk about our feelings to people whom we want them to understand us, we might not get it right; yet these emotions are the ones which we need to grow and become mature because only in our loneliness we can know ourselves better; we can deal with ourselves and compromise.
People come and go; only you will stay with yourself forever and only you can fully understand yourslef. Therefore, instead of always being in need of hanging out with others, try to build a good relationship with yourself for at the end of the day we are all alone. However, being sociable and keeping in touch with other people is good, but taking a break and being alone once in a while are needed as well.
Remember that "It’s your road and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you." Rumi.
Amna.
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